Middle Class Morality

During the holidays, my younger daughter asked us to have several family movie nights.  I love those and really don’t do them often enough.

For one of those nights, I picked “My Fair Lady”.  It’s a movie I cherished since the first time a saw it at 5-6 years of age.  The music is beautiful, catchy and masterfully executed.  The general atmosphere of the movie, in spite of its obviously chauvinistic overtones dressed up as humor (I still can’t believe the last scene), is upbeat and loving.  Generates tender feelings in my heart.

Alfred P. Doolittle cannot afford middle class morality.  Neither can I.  Not because my economics forbid it but rather because somewhere along the way, it just got dropped, became irrelevant and got substituted with something else.

I’d like to think I live a “conscious life”.  Therefore, my actions are meant to be reflective of a moral/ethical compass of some sort.  My first awakening came in 1992, a few months after marrying my first wife.  Regardless of the circumstances, whether justified or not, a conflict led me to think about divorce.  I didn’t do it then.  Heavily in my mind weighed the idea that I had married at church in the eyes of God and my fellow Christians and divorce was not acceptable, period.  Middle class morality.  It then took me 2 years between 1994 and 1996 to actually make a decision, which I did with all of its heavy consequences.  I pause for a second to send my ex-wife a loving ray of light wherever she may be.

Divorce is quite a departure from middle class morality, at least as was known for a long time, because it is “proof” that any relationship is expendable.  If once we’ve decided to leave that whom we’ve promised to stay with forever, then anyone else is fair game.  Heavy stuff.

I ponder now whether I have built a set of philosophic beliefs that justify the actions I have already taken, or my actions are guided by those philosophic beliefs acting as a moral compass?  Are we  massively engaged in backwards rationalization?

Over the coming posts, I will shape the framework of my philosophic beliefs.  Not original.  Picking pieces from here and there.  I will also provide references to books that have been significant influence.  It will be a journey unveiling the make up of a life.

Quite a departure from middle class morality.  Maybe it’s a ray of light against the desperation of sensing that “something is wrong with me” and “I don’t belong in the world as I know it”.

Stay tuned.

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